“Excuses are for Losers”
One of the hardest things in sports is accepting a loss for what it is; you lost. The first temptation is to find a reason why you lost by blaming someone or something. Although I was ingrained with the concept of “Excuses are for Losers” at an early age, I will admit that the temptation to this is always there. It all comes down to this: your opponent was either smarter than you on the court, more skilled than you, or in better condition than you. What everyone needs to learn is that no one wants to hear an excuse for why you lost, especially if it is the Mecca of all excuses, ‘Well I was just too tired.’
Rafael Nadal easily could have had this excuse if he had lost to Roger Federer in the 2009 Australian Open Final. Nadal had just come off a brutal five-setter against Fernando Verdasco a couple days before the finals and the media had already made excuses for him before the finals had even started. He had an easy out if he lost. But, he came out and beat Federer in five sets. Now, I know we’re all not Rafael Nadal, but what we can learn from this is that no matter what tennis throws at us, there is always a way to win and avoid making excuses for ourselves.
As a coach, whenever I hear the excuse “I was too tired,” the first thought that comes into my mind is that this person didn’t train hard enough before the tournament to be ready for what this sport will throw at them. One of my favorite sayings is, “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” This is so true in tennis because if you are not in shape for a tournament to where you can go six sets in one day, you are planning on losing that second match before the tournament has even started.
If you watch any press-conference for the NFL, NBA or MLB you may hear guys state, “No excuses, they were the better team today.” When the media is yelling, “You didn’t have your best player,” or “Your team was facing a lot of injuries.” Guys swallow their pride and accept the loss on that day and prepare even harder for the next game.
Recognize this: excuses make YOU look bad, not your opponent. Learn from your losses so that at the next tournament, you will not have the same problems that may have contributed to that loss. And next time you lose and hear that dreaded question from someone, “How’d you do?” The best answer is always, “I lost, he/she was better today.”
Most Common Excuses:
“I was too tired,” (You need to be in better shape and have a better nutrition plan)
“I haven’t played in two weeks” (You should have found some time to practice)
“I had a test the next day that I was worried about” (You should have planned ahead)
“I couldn’t hit a backhand” (You should have had more repetitions before the tournament)
“It was too hot” (It wasn’t any cooler for you opponent)
“It was too cold” (It wasn’t any warmer for your opponent)
“I didn’t have any energy” (There are Power Bar gels that give you boosts of energy)
“I was injured” (If you were so injured you probably shouldn’t have played the match in the first place)
Think about it!
Dennis Myers, March 2009